Get Your Freedom Back While Living With an Alcoholic Mother

While you are living with an alcoholic mother, it's totally normal for you to experience burning anger and resentment. You have suffered her vindictive, abusive behavior every time she's been drinking. You have had to take care of her when she has been riding her alcohol abuse addiction roller-coaster. And how many times you have listen to her apologies and promises to be a better mother, a better person?

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At times, your anger and resentment disappears into a grey numbness. It's a coping mechanism. You love your mother. You don't want to abandon her but you don't want to continue the misery of living with an alcoholic parent either. You don't know what else to do and you feel like your sanity is slowly disintegrating.

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The first step towards being happy and whole again while you're living with an alcoholic mother is to identify the myths that you're living into.

Myth #1: I have to fix it.

Fact: Your mother's alcohol abuse addiction is her own problem and her own responsibility to take. Not yours.

When you react to your mother's alcoholic behaviour, you allow her alcohol abuse addiction to control you. Focus on other things in your life instead of being so consumed by your mother's alcoholic behaviour.

Stop rescuing her. Let her deal with the problems she creates while she's been drinking. Only interfere if she is going to hurt herself or hurt others. The more you try to fix the problems she creates due to her alcohol abuse, the longer she stays being an alcoholic.

Myth #2: It's my fault that my mother is drinking.

Fact: Your mother is an alcoholic because she has given in to the addictive power of alcohol.

Feeling guilty about your parent's alcoholic addiction is an impact of your mother's drunken tirades where she had continually blamed you for her unhappiness. Only your mother can control her own happiness. She is the only one responsible for her own actions even if she is an alcoholic.

Myth #3: If I try hard enough I can change her alcoholic addiction.

Fact: You have ZERO control over her drinking problem and you cannot change or fix your mother's addiction.

Only your mother can fix herself. However, the great news is that you can absolutely control your own reaction to your mother's alcoholic behaviour. Take great care of your own well being. Protect your own emotional, mental and spiritual health while you are living with an alcoholic. Do not react to her abuse and do not rescue her.

Myth #4: I do not need education about alcoholism.

Fact: Although you have been living with an alcoholic for years it doesn't mean you know enough about the disease called Alcoholism.

Alcoholism is a very complex disease. It is difficult to deal with it due to the numerous physiological and psychological factors that are deeply incorporated in its development. Learn about alcoholism and the strongest contributing factors to its development so you can help your alcoholic parent overcome her alcohol abuse addiction.

Living with an alcoholic mother requires you to bust those myths so you can actually preserve yourself and your sanity. Think about it, if you crumble as a result of living with an alcoholic how is it going to impact your mum and your personal future? Set yourself free so you can really help yourself and your mum.

Get Your Freedom Back While Living With an Alcoholic Mother

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